Feeling Disconnected from Your Body and Life?

Maaike Del Villar
Apr 24
3 min read

For years, I believed it was my job to do it all.

I wore every hat — mother, wife, leader, chauffeur, house manager, emotional support system, and peacekeeper. I never questioned it. I just assumed that was my role, and somewhere along the way, I forgot how to ask for help.

Maybe you can relate.

We grow up learning to be responsible, capable, and strong. We take care of everyone around us, often without pausing to ask what we need. It becomes a habit. And then — one day — life shifts. The kids move out. Hormones drop. Responsibilities change. And in the quiet that follows, we realize we’ve been running on empty, and so disconnected it hurts.

We look in the mirror and wonder: Where did life go? Why do I feel like a stranger in my own body? Why am I carrying so much, yet feeling so hollow?

This isn’t just a menopause problem — it’s a human problem. It’s what happens when we disconnect from ourselves and our community.

The truth is, we’ve spent so long being the one in control that we forgot the magic of letting others show up for us. We assumed if we didn’t do it, no one else would. And in doing so, we trained the people around us not to help.

But here’s what I realized — and what I want to remind you of today:

The weight you’re carrying isn’t yours alone.

And you don’t have to hold it all.

The missing piece, the one thing that will bring that connection back and shift your energy, is so simple we overlook it: Ask.

Not from a place of weakness, but from a place of wisdom.

Ask your body what it needs today. Ask your family for support. Ask your friends to listen.

Ask your community to hold space for you. Ask your coach (yes, that’s me) what’s possible for you next.

When we stop assuming we have to navigate this season alone and start inviting others into our world — magic happens. New ideas surface. The energy in the room lightens. We remember we belong to each other.

Connection is medicine. Community is power.

In midlife and menopause, this becomes even more important. We need places and people where we can be seen, heard, and supported. Where we don’t have to explain ourselves or pretend to have it all together. Where the feeling of disconnection fades away and feel so much lighter.

This is the work I do. And this is the kind of woman I attract — women ready to break the cycle, stop doing it all, and start asking for what they truly need.

So today, I invite you to try this simple practice:

Gather your people.

Name the problem.

Say, This is what needs to get done — how would you solve it?

And let them surprise you.

Then NOTICE:

Notice how it feels to let go of the need to control every detail.

Notice how your energy shifts when you’re supported.

Notice how life softens when you invite connection back in.

If you need a safe place to practice asking, start here. DM me. Email me. Leave a comment.

No expectations, no pressure — just connection.

And if you’ve been telling yourself you can’t work with me because of time, money, or fear of what it means to finally choose yourself — just know, where there’s a will, there’s a way.

The universe always has your back.

5, 4, 3, 2, 1… ask.

You are not alone in this.

We rise better, higher, and stronger together. Welcome to your community.

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